Episodes

Send us a text In this episode, we explore the complexities of relationships, discussing the valuable lessons learned at the kitchen table and the transformative nature of love. By unlearning outdated beliefs about chemistry, commitment, and conflict, we encourage listeners to engage with their partners in a deeper, more meaningful way. • Discussing Valentine’s Day and personal stories • The importance of honoring the sanctifying process of relationships • Unlearning the notion that the best re...

Send us a text This conversation urges listeners to unlearn the idea that relationships should be easy, focusing instead on the sanctifying power of vulnerability and sacrifice in intimate connections. We discuss compatibility, the importance of personal gaps, and the intricate dance of mutual growth required in meaningful relationships. • Challenging the notion of easy relationships • The significance of unity in marriage • Recognizing relationships as sanctifying experiences • Understanding c...

Send us a text RA and Jaquetta explore the intricate relationship we have with money and the importance of redefining value over wealth. They share personal anecdotes that reveal common misunderstandings about finances, emphasizing that true fulfillment stems from recognizing one’s intrinsic worth rather than merely chasing higher paychecks. • Discussing how money was perceived in childhood • The visibility and deception of wealth • Navigating the conversation around debt and its implications •...

Send us a text This episode embraces the importance of taking time to sharpen our metaphorical axes, acknowledging that productivity improves significantly with a solid foundation of self-care and preparation. We discuss the struggles of managing busy schedules and the impact of neglecting our routines, encouraging listeners to find ways to invest in themselves for greater outcomes. • Understanding the impact of busy lifestyles on mental health • The significance of morning routines on producti...

Send us a text We explore the crucial process of unlearning harmful emotional lessons ingrained in us from childhood, emphasizing the importance of emotional vulnerability. This episode dives into the impact of societal expectations and the interplay between faith and emotions while encouraging listeners to confront their emotional baggage for true healing. • Emphasizing the importance of emotional vulnerability • Discussing societal and familial influences on emotional habits • Clarifying the ...

Send us a text The episode emphasizes the necessity of unlearning outdated norms that hinder personal growth and freedom. Co-hosts engage in conversation around adapting to changing societal expectations, sharing personal anecdotes, and discussing generational dynamics of normalcy. • Introduce the concept of unlearning from familial teachings • Discuss societal expectations versus personal truths • Share personal narratives of change and adaptation • Explore generational differences in coping w...

Kinah Burkes shares her profound journey of emotional growth and the realization of the importance of vulnerability and authenticity. Through candid stories from her past, she reflects on her struggles with emotional immaturity, the pressure of expectations, and the significance of confronting one's personal truths to achieve true freedom and connection. • Kinah emphasizes overcoming and the importance of emotional maturity • The shift from familial support to navigating life independently • Th...

This episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change and consciously preparing for 2025. It encourages listeners to discern where to focus their energy and how to maintain hope amidst challenges, highlighting the necessity of both saying yes to what matters and no to distractions. • Preparing your soul for the changes of 2025 • The significance of community engagement • Addressing distractions and gaining focus • Understanding the tipping point in our lives • The importance of sustaining ...

Our latest episode focuses on the crucial distinction between planning and having a solid vision for personal growth. We explore how falling in love with your future self can transform your approach to resolutions, making it easier to stick with your plans and avoid the commonplace trap of quitting early. • The importance of envisioning your future self Strategies for avoiding planning pitfalls • Insights on National Quitting Day • Realistic goal-setting over long-term visioning • The limitatio...

Have you ever felt the weight of transitioning into a new life stage, especially during the bustling holiday season? Join us as we explore the themes of grace, patience, and hope in navigating these shifts. We share stories and insights on reconciling current realities with past dreams, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and the biblical perspective of grace as a sustaining force in our weaknesses. From marriage and parenting to career advancements, we acknowledge the responsibilitie...

Ever felt like your life is stuck on repeat, especially during the holidays? Join us on this special Freedom Friday episode of the Unlearned Podcast, where we navigate the emotional maze of going home for the holidays. As we approach our two-year celebration, we uncover the tension between our past and present selves, particularly when life’s milestones seem stubbornly out of reach. We all harbor dreams of love, fulfilling careers, and vibrant social lives, but what happens when these dreams rem...

The holidays stir a mix of emotions—nostalgia, joy, and bittersweet moments. In this episode, we reflect on family expectations, life updates, and reconciling our past and present selves. With humor and heart, we tackle societal pressures to achieve milestones, reminding ourselves that true success is personal. Through stories of family inquiries and unnoticed accomplishments, we celebrate personal growth and the journey of becoming. We highlight the importance of embracing God’s timing, lettin...

Ever wondered how birth order influences the dynamics between siblings? Join us in this enlightening episode of the Unlearned Podcast as we introduce our remarkable younger sisters. Together, we unravel the unique challenges and triumphs of sisterhood, sharing personal stories that highlight the blend of humor and depth inherent in sibling relationships. From Rhoda's inspiring career as an assistant principal to Arvey's expertise in mental health, our conversation is a celebration of accomplishm...

Dive into the heart of Wicked’s storyline, where Glinda and Elphaba’s journey from foes to friends becomes a metaphor for personal evolution and self-forgiveness. I’ll share my thoughts on how their story speaks volumes about the importance of having the right people at different phases of life, even when it means parting ways. Whether you’re a Broadway aficionado or new to this magical narrative, discover how these themes resonate with our own lives. Through their enchanting friendship, we’ll e...

Take the Working Genius Assessment! https://www.workinggenius.com/ Unlock the secrets to maximizing your unique talents with us on the UnlearnT Podcast, where we explore the transformative power of the Working Genius Assessment by Patrick Lencioni. We promise you'll gain a fresh perspective on how to harness your strengths to boost teamwork and productivity, whether in professional settings or organizing personal projects. Through engaging stories from our own experiences, we illustrate how re...

Confidence isn’t about knowing everything—it's about pushing forward even when you don’t. This idea transformed my journey as a musician, where I discovered that the true essence of confidence lies in embracing uncertainty and acting with intention. Join me, Ruth Abigail, as I share personal stories about the invaluable lessons I learned from mentors on maintaining momentum and the importance of appearing intentional, even when mistakes happen. Leave a comment to let us know your thoughts about...

Take the True Colors Assessment! https://home.hamptonu.edu/student-affairs/wp-content/uploads/sites/59/2021/11/true_colors_test-for-mentoring-fillable.pdf Unlock the secrets of self-discovery and personal growth with us on the UnLearnT Podcast. Discover how personality assessments, particularly the True Colors assessment, can be a game-changer in understanding yourself and others. We promise that by the end of this episode, you'll have tools to enhance your relationships and mitigate conflict b...

Ever wondered why your resolutions fall flat while other habits stick like glue? Join me as I unravel my personal journey of redefining exercise, embracing the simple yet powerful act of morning walks. This shift unmasked the essential dance between internal commitment and external consistency. Through reflecting on our daily habits—how we allocate time, resources, and nurture relationships—we gain clarity on our true commitments. By aligning our actions with our intentions, we pave the way for ...

Imagine stepping into a new job in your late 30s and navigating the intricate maze of workplace dynamics. On this episode of the Alert Podcast, I'm Ruth Abigail, joined by my lively co-host Jaquita, as we unravel the secrets of personal growth through the power of personality assessments. We promise to shed light on how understanding your DISC assessment results can transform not just your professional life, but also your personal journey. Jaquita shares her firsthand experiences, uncovering how...

Have you ever felt weighed down by the pressure to realize your vision on your own? What if embracing collective creativity could lead to greater freedom and fulfillment? Join us on the latest episode of the Unlearned podcast as we challenge the traditional notion of vision ownership. Through personal insights, we explore the journey from "my vision" to "our vision," uncovering the power of shared ideas and the relief that comes from inviting others into the process. By fostering open discussion...

What happens when you let go of sole ownership and embrace the power of a shared vision? Having carried the weight of my ideas alone for too long, I share my revelations on creating a vision that is owned and evolved by everyone involved. Through strategies like discussing ideas rather than just communicating them, welcoming others' contributions, and embracing the inevitable changes that come with collective input, we can not only lighten our burdens but also ensure the sustainability and growt...

We venture into the transformative concept of love languages, popularized by Gary Chapman, and the delightful complexity of how we express and receive love. Personal stories unravel our mixed feelings about gift-giving while highlighting the willingness to embrace and adapt to each other's unique preferences. Whether it's quality time, acts of service, or the power of a handwritten note, our conversation showcases how understanding these expressions can enhance our relationships. We also reflect...

Discover your inner superhero through the transformative power of the StrengthsFinder assessment. Join Jaquita and me as we reveal how uncovering our unique strengths has not only reshaped our careers but also boosted our confidence in the professional realm. By focusing on what we naturally excel at, rather than harping on weaknesses, we explore how this mindset shift leads to more fulfilling work experiences. In a candid comparison, Jaquita and I share our top strengths, painting a vivid pict...

Have you ever found yourself caught in the whirlwind of life’s demands, feeling like you’re juggling too many balls in the pursuit of personal growth? With honest reflections, I reveal how I reached a point where I needed to intentionally declutter my life, focusing on fewer, more meaningful commitments. It's a journey that's tested my resolve, especially when tempting opportunities arise, challenging the promises I've made to myself and my accountability partners.